Previous Entry | Next Entry

Here We Go Monday, Here We Go!

It's Me!
The stories we tell ourselves about our lives dictate the type of life we're going to have. This is really important to understand, especially if you're in a place where you don't have a lot of financial resources. The one thing that you really can't afford when you're poor is believing everything people tell you about who you are and what your life is going to be like and most importantly, what you should want.

Oh I was just about to tell you a lie. I was going to say it doesn't cost anything to think for yourself. But oh baby, my sweet darling, it will cost you so much to think for yourself.  You will lose things; I have lost things and sometimes this loss hurts an awful lot. You will lose the comfort of the herd. You will lose sweet oblivion. You will lose the intoxicating fever of experience without context; the blissful heady rush that comes from not thinking things through. You will lose regard and relationships. It is a painful thing at times to see things as they most likely are, rather than how they are presented.

There is a price for the path I'm recommending, and it's not a small price. But I think it well-worth it, all these years on, and perhaps you will too.

The stories we tell ourselves about our lives dictate the type of life we're going to have. Every day we wake up in relationship with Story. We tell ourselves, continually and subconsciously, a very powerful narrative. We tell ourselves if we're happy or not. We tell ourselves if we're competent. We tell ourselves if we're strong. We tell ourselves if we are healthy. We tell ourselves if we are beautiful. We tell ourselves if we are loved. We tell ourselves if we love others. We tell ourselves if we are masters of our fate or if we are helpless leaves in a hurricane. We tell ourselves if we trust our own selves, our own voice, our own experience, our own perception of the world.

We are not the only ones telling stories to us. Now, more than at any other point in human history, we are awash in a sea of messaging. We are bombarded by Stories. These stories tell us many things. They tell us first and foremost that we're not happy. That we're incomplete. That we're not good enough. We're not beautiful enough. We're certainly not healthy enough. These stories tell us that we are unworthy of regard, that we are managing our lives badly, that we are incompetent - unless, of course, we buy the right things. Given the right makeup, prescription medications, and phenomenally expensive college education we can buy our way into worthiness. That is how the story goes.

All I'm asking you this morning - and every morning - is to consider critically whether these stories we're being told are actually true. Consider how much you're exposing yourself to the narratives. You may think that these stories are  not touching you, but as a marketer of some experience here, let me assure you of this: if I can tell you several times an hour, every single day, that there is something wrong with you and that you need medication to fix it, eventually you will believe you are sick.

If we are going to heal ourselves - if we are going to heal each other, and our communities, and eventually the world - we need to take our stories back. It starts with what you tell yourself about yourself. You are smart, and beautiful, and strong, and capable of making yourself wholly into the person you want to be. You have come this far, and you will go much further yet. Telling yourself this is the first step in making it your own truth.

Onward, upward, forward, y'all. We have toxic prevailing cultural paradigms that need smashing to smithereens. I'm gonna need your help.

Comments

( 8 comments — Leave a comment )
bodhifox
Jul. 22nd, 2013 02:25 pm (UTC)
Thank you.
bytchearse
Jul. 22nd, 2013 02:49 pm (UTC)
I'll help!
I once had a sign at my desk that read something like "Life's a stage, but choose carefully who you place in your front row"

I have developed an odd ability wherein the words of liars and BS artists actually hurt my ears...really easy to know which stories to not pay attention to that way.
cbpotts
Jul. 22nd, 2013 03:13 pm (UTC)
Re: I'll help!
I have an opposite thing: when someone tells me the truth, especially their real,deep truth, it can be hair-raising and even a little nausea-making. Luckily (?) it is very rare phenomenon. I can remember those incidents individually over the years.
bytchearse
Jul. 22nd, 2013 03:18 pm (UTC)
not exactly opposite
The real deep truth raises the hairs on my neck and gives me that similar feeling to you. Sadly, the liars outweigh the truth-tellers.
nounsandverbs
Jul. 22nd, 2013 02:52 pm (UTC)
Part of my discontent lately is that I spend my days telling people stories about what a crappy place the world is. And I'm starting to believe those stories myself.
cbpotts
Jul. 22nd, 2013 03:11 pm (UTC)
I hear you so much more than I can even express. And cynical me says I can sell downer stories all day long, but where is the market for positivity? And then I think well, the market exists, but it is not being served. Not sure where the truth is in that continuum, but it is in there somewhere.
eqfe
Jul. 22nd, 2013 03:28 pm (UTC)
"You are smart, and beautiful, and strong, and capable of making yourself wholly into the person you want to be. You have come this far, and you will go much further yet. Telling yourself this is the first step in making it your own truth." I'm not beautiful, but I am honest. The truth that I try to remind myself is, "Don't let the past remind us of what we are not now."
eqfe
Jul. 22nd, 2013 03:29 pm (UTC)
By that I mean not to compare the present, where we are happy and content, to the past when we were rich. As long as I don't think about the way things were, I'm actually quite happy.
( 8 comments — Leave a comment )

Profile

It's me
cbpotts
cbpotts

Latest Month

July 2014
S M T W T F S
  12345
6789101112
13141516171819
20212223242526
2728293031  
Powered by LiveJournal.com
Sponsored by Cisco